In-laws Article: Financial Independence
July 29, 2009, 9:58 am
The following article is exclusive to Hitched Magazine.
5 Ways To Become Financially Independent From Parents And In-laws
by Jenna D. Barry
Do you live with your parents or in-laws? Do you work for them? Do you owe them money? Do they provide daycare for your children? Do you depend on them for transportation? (Read the rest.)
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Article for New Moms Quoting Jenna
This article is from TheBump.com. It refers to well-intentioned mothers, rather than toxic mothers-in-law, but much of the advice is still applicable.
Back off, Grandma!
by Erin van Vuuren
Dealing with a pushy parent? You’re not alone. Get tips on how to deal.
Like it or not, your mom has parenting experience and opinions, and odds are good that she’s going to shove them down your throat share them with you every chance she gets. Not a problem for your fam? Smile and give grandma a hug for us. But if you have unsolicited advice coming out the wazoo, here are a few tips to help keep your cool. (Read the rest.)
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In-laws Article: Compromise with spouse
The following article is exclusive to Hitched Magazine:
In-laws: Six Ways to Reach Loving Compromises With Your Spouse
by Jenna D. Barry
Many married couples argue about their in-laws. The good news is that you can have a terrific marriage even if you have difficult in-laws. The best way to overcome any challenge in marriage is to unite as a couple, and the best way to unite as a couple is to reach loving compromises. (Read the rest.)
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Got Mother-in-Law Problems?
This article is in Power Woman Magazine, WomenOfFlorida.com, Essential Baby AU, NJFamily.com, EasierParenting.com, Swell Pregnancy Guide, Thrifty Moms, Helium.com, EzineArticles.com, and AssociatedContent.com, etc.
Got Mother-In-Law Problems? 5 Tips for Bringing Out the Best in Your Mother-in-Law
By Jenna D. Barry
If you get along great with your mother-in-law, then I’m really happy for you. Actually, if I’m being honest, I’m only 60% happy for you and 40% jealous. There are a lot of women who love their husband’s mother because she is kind, considerate, and unassuming. Unfortunately there are many of us with controlling mothers-in-law who believe the world –and everyone in it– should revolve around them.
(Read the rest.)
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Press Release: May
Check out Jenna’s May press release called “Author Helps Mothers-in-Law and Daughters-in-Law Improve Their Relationship.”
Author Helps Mothers-in-Law and Daughters-in-Law Improve Their Relationship
“Many women struggle with that innate conflict with the mother-in-law; one sees him as a boy, the other as a man. Jenna D. Barry offers a wealth of information and resources for women in dealing with their mother-in-law. Her book, ‘A Wife’s Guide to In-laws,’ is an enjoyable read and one I personally wish I had 35 years ago.”
–Peggy Hinders, MA, LPC, Marriage Counselor
Manhattan, NY, May 5 2009– Jenna D. Barry, author of “A Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His Parents,” has just written two new articles to help mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law improve their relationship with each other–just in time for Mother’s Day. One article is for daughters-in-law: “Got Mother-in-Law Problems? 5 Tips for Bringing Out the Best in Your Mother-in-Law.” The other is for mothers-in-law: “5 Ways To Be A Great Mother-in-Law.” Both are scheduled to appear on various websites such as WomenOf.com, Helium.com, AssociatedContent.com, and EzineArticles.com.
(Read the rest.)
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Press Release: April
Check out Jenna’s April Press Release called “Support Group Encourages Daughters-in-law Worldwide” at http://www.pr.com/press-release/146503.
Support Group Encourages Daughters-in-law Worldwide
“It was heartwarming to discover that other wives are going through the same problems and looking for positive solutions. I love this group because Jenna is extremely diplomatic; she supports women who are having in-law problems and encourages healthy communication between spouses.” –Renee Osman, daughter-in-law in the United Kingdom.
Manhattan, NY, April 20, 2009 –(PR.com)– Jenna D. Barry, author of “A Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His Parents,” is helping daughters-in-law across the globe by leading a positive, encouraging support group. “We get several new members each month,” says Barry. “Some have been married several years and are on the brink of divorce because of tension caused by difficult in-laws. Others are brides-to-be looking for advice on how to handle future mother-in-law problems.”
(Read the rest.)
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In-laws Article: Make Spouse Priority
The following article is exclusive to Hitched Magazine.
Difficult Choices: Making Your Spouse a Priority Over Your Parents
by Jenna D. Barry
You have probably heard the phrase “leave and cleave.” Most of us agree that the cleaving part is pretty fun, but the process of leaving often presents a challenge. Becoming truly independent from our parents is one of the best gifts we can give our spouse. That doesn’t mean we should cut off contact with our parents or start being hateful toward them. It just means that pleasing our spouse should take priority over pleasing our parents. (Read the rest.)
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How To Be A Great Mother-in-Law
This article is featured on WomenOf.com, AssociatedContent.com, EzineArticles, and Helium.com.
5 Ways To Be A Great Mother-in-Law
by Jenna D. Barry
How do you like being a mother-in-law? Is it everything you dreamed it would be? Does your son call and visit as often as you would like? Does your daughter-in-law meet all of your expectations? Are you as involved with your grandchildren’s lives as you would like to be? If not, then perhaps there are some things you can do differently in order to have the best relationship possible with your son, his wife and your grandkids.
(Read the rest.)
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In-laws Article: Drawing Boundaries
Check out this article published in Hitched Magazine in February. (This article is exclusive to Hitched Magazine.)
Drawing Boundaries With Difficult In-laws
By Jenna D. Barry
Can you relate to this statement?
“My in-laws call constantly, drop by unexpectedly, criticize the way we raise our kids, and manipulate us with guilt if we don’t do exactly what they think we should. They often put my husband in a position to choose between being a great spouse and an obedient son.”
Most experts agree that the best way to handle destructive in-laws is to draw boundaries with them. The question is who should be the one to draw those boundaries. Some say that if the husband’s parents are the problem, then he– rather than his wife– should confront them so they are less likely to get their feelings hurt. Likewise, if the wife’s parents are the problem, then she should deal with them directly. That’s terrific advice in a perfect world. The problem is– yes, you guessed it– we don’t live in a perfect world. (Read the rest.)
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Article About Living With Mother-in-law
Jenna D. Barry was quoted in the following article by Joanne Richard. It was featured in The Ottawa Sun, The Sault Star, The Sudbury Star, The Winnepeg Sun, Canoe.ca, The Expositor, and The Niagra Falls Review.
February 28, 2009
Too Close For Comfort
Family: How to avoid the stress when the mother-in-law moves in
by Joanne Richard
Too close for comfort? We’ll soon see.
Barack Obama’s mother-in-law has set up house in the White House with the first family. Marian Robinson, 71, is on board to help her grandchildren, Malia and Sasha, get settled in and provide support during the transition at 1600 Pennsylvania Ave.
While extended families moving in can be a great solution for busy couples seeking work/life balance, the domestic arrangement can be fraught conflict, criticism and power struggles.
Some relish the intergenerational cosiness and the strength in numbers; for others, distance makes the heart grow fonder.
Living with your in-laws isn’t a great idea, “however, some people do find ways to make it work,” says Jenna D. Barry, author of A Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His Parents (WifeGuide.org).
(Read the rest.)
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Excerpt from Hitched Magazine
Hitched Magazine, January 17, 2009
Jenna D. Barry’s new book titled, A Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His Parents gives tips on how to have a great marriage—even if your in-laws aren’t so great.
Excerpt taken from Chapter 7: Stop Making That Face or It Will Get Stuck That Way: Exposing your husband’s false beliefs
According to some guy on the internet, the second Law of Gun Safety is: Never Point a Gun at Something You’re Not Prepared to Destroy! In the past you have probably directed your anger toward your husband and his parents whenever they behaved like jerks. But that hasn’t done you any good, has it? That’s because you’re wasting your energy on yelling at your hubby and criticizing his folks when it would be better to focus on destroying the false beliefs causing the problems. This chapter will (1) teach you which false beliefs contribute to your husband’s specific behaviors and (2) suggest things you can say/do so your husband will begin to question them. The next time your husband behaves in a way that makes you want to rip your entire wedding finger off, ask yourself what is causing him to behave that way. Once your husband is free from his prison of warped thinking, he will begin to transform from a guilt-ridden parent-pleaser into a confident, independent adult. It’s impossible for me to list all of the false beliefs that contribute to your husband’s behavior, but here are seven major ones:
(Read the rest.)
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Holidays With In-laws
The following article was featured in ForeverBrides.com, Pregnancy.org, and WomenOf.com.
“Six Tips For Spending the Holidays With Your In-laws”
by Jenna D. Barry
The way I see it, there are two groups of people: those who love the holidays because they love spending time with family, and those who dread the holidays because their family—or spouse’s family—is difficult to be around. I wrote this article for those of you in the second category. (Read the rest.)
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Loyal Husband; Difficult In-laws
This article has been featured in MarriedRomance.com, ExploringWomanhood.com, ForeverBrides.com, and Helium.com.
“Everybody Loves Raymond but Hates his Parents”
by Jenna D. Barry
Why does everyone love Raymond? I’d like to smack him upside the head.
To set the record straight, I love the TV show “Everybody Loves Raymond” (because I can relate to it) and I’ll bet that in real life Ray Romano is a wonderful, loyal husband and confident adult. But his character on the show is a gutless wimp who constantly ignores his wife’s needs in order to please his narcissistic parents. (Read the rest.)
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In-laws: Growing a Strong Marriage
This article is exclusive to About.com.
“Growing a Strong Marriage: Tips for Dealing with In-laws”
by Jenna D. Barry
Last spring I was trying to decide what to do about some green grass that had crept into my flower garden. To pull out the grass or not to pull out the grass…that was the question. I thought to myself, grass isn’t really a weed, but I don’t want it to grow where it is growing. Just then my husband walked up and made the profound statement “A weed is anything that grows where you don’t want it to grow.” I decided that he was a genius and pulled the grass out from around the flowers. Then to prevent the same problem from occurring again, I put in some decorative rocks to serve as a boundary between the flowers and the grass. (Read the rest.)
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Are You Living With Your In-laws?
“Are you Living With Your In-laws?”
By Jenna D. Barry
Do you live with your in-laws? If so, you aren’t alone. People live with their in-laws for several reasons. Newlyweds often do it to save money for a house. New moms (and/or single parents) do it so they can have help with childcare. Sometimes elderly parents move in with a son or daughter when they can no longer take care of themselves. And during poor economic times, some families move in together to survive financial hardship.
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