December Press Release

November 10, 2009, 1:29 pm     4 Comments »

Author Helps Couples Resolve Conflicts About In-laws and Holidays

“Don’t say ‘no’ to your partner so you can say ‘yes’ to your parents. Communicate with your spouse and work out a loving compromise about where and with whom to spend the holidays. Then, unite as a couple to share this decision with relatives.”
–Excerpt from Hitched Magazine’s article “Surviving Holiday Guilt Trips From Parents and In-laws” by Jenna D. Barry

Manhattan, NY, December 10, 2009–– Author Jenna D. Barry offers practical tips for married couples on how to resolve conflicts about in-laws and the holidays. Her book, “A Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His Parents,” devotes several pages to dealing with holiday issues. Two of her articles have recently appeared in Hitched Magazine: “Surviving Holiday Guilt Trips From Parents and In-laws” and “Holidays With the In-laws: Tips for Resolving Marital Conflict.” (Read the rest.)

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In-laws Article: Holidays Marriage

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The following article is exclusive to Hitched Magazine.

Holidays with the In-laws:  Tips for Resolving Marital Conflict
By Jenna D. Barry

Do you and your spouse always agree about where and with whom to spend the holidays?  If not, then you certainly aren’t alone; this is a major source of tension for many couples.  What should you do if you want to spend Christmas at your parents’ house, but your spouse wants to spend it with his/her family?  The answer to that is a tricky one, but here are a few tips to help you achieve a win-win situation.
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Mother-in-Law Whisperer

August 23, 2009, 6:17 pm     8 Comments »

This article appears in,, Chic Mom Magazine,, Metroplex Baby, etc.

5 Ways to Become a Mother-in-Law Whisperer
By Jenna D. Barry

I’m a huge fan of the show “Dog Whisperer” with Cesar Millan; it’s not unusual for me to sit and watch four episodes in a row. Recently, during one of my Dog Whisperer TV marathons, I realized that many of the techniques Cesar uses to train dog owners can also be used to train daughters-in-law. (Read the rest.)

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Got In-laws Problems? You Tube Video

August 17, 2009, 7:17 pm     1 Comment »

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Got Mother-in-Law Problems?

May 4, 2009, 6:04 pm     6 Comments »

This article is in Power Woman Magazine,, Essential Baby AU,,, Swell Pregnancy Guide, Thrifty Moms,,, and, etc.

Got Mother-In-Law Problems? 5 Tips for Bringing Out the Best in Your Mother-in-Law
By Jenna D. Barry

If you get along great with your mother-in-law, then I’m really happy for you. Actually, if I’m being honest, I’m only 60% happy for you and 40% jealous. There are a lot of women who love their husband’s mother because she is kind, considerate, and unassuming. Unfortunately there are many of us with controlling mothers-in-law who believe the world –and everyone in it– should revolve around them.
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Excerpt from Hitched Magazine

January 7, 2009, 12:19 am     3 Comments »

Hitched Magazine, January 17, 2009

Jenna D. Barry’s new book titled, A Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His Parents gives tips on how to have a great marriage—even if your in-laws aren’t so great.

Excerpt taken from Chapter 7: Stop Making That Face or It Will Get Stuck That Way: Exposing your husband’s false beliefs

According to some guy on the internet, the second Law of Gun Safety is: Never Point a Gun at Something You’re Not Prepared to Destroy! In the past you have probably directed your anger toward your husband and his parents whenever they behaved like jerks. But that hasn’t done you any good, has it? That’s because you’re wasting your energy on yelling at your hubby and criticizing his folks when it would be better to focus on destroying the false beliefs causing the problems. This chapter will (1) teach you which false beliefs contribute to your husband’s specific behaviors and (2) suggest things you can say/do so your husband will begin to question them. The next time your husband behaves in a way that makes you want to rip your entire wedding finger off, ask yourself what is causing him to behave that way. Once your husband is free from his prison of warped thinking, he will begin to transform from a guilt-ridden parent-pleaser into a confident, independent adult. It’s impossible for me to list all of the false beliefs that contribute to your husband’s behavior, but here are seven major ones:
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Book Excerpt on

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The following excerpt was published on on January 06, 2009.

A Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His Parents
by Jenna Barry

Jenna D. Barry, a wife of 14 years, has personally experienced the despair that comes from having an unsupportive partner. Her book suggests specific things to say and do to gain your husband’s loyalty and unite as a couple to deal with difficult in-laws. A Wife’s Guide to In-laws has over 40 cartoons, two fun chapters written just for Hubby, and worksheets to help the two of you reach loving compromises about common problem issues. Jenna offers hilarious, heartfelt advice about how to have a great marriage even if your in-laws aren’t so great. Here’s an excerpt from her book.

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Are You Married to a Momma’s Boy?

December 16, 2008, 1:37 am     2 Comments »

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“Are You Married to a Momma’s Boy?”
by Jenna D. Barry

You probably fell in love with your husband because he was a loving, generous, thoughtful, responsible, honest person. Maybe you loved the kind way he treated his 5-year old niece, his yellow Labrador retriever, or his sweet little grandma. Whatever qualities attracted you to him, there’s a good chance that his mother is a big reason why he turned out so great. Moms are usually a wonderful influence in their son’s life. Guys who have a close relationship with their mother usually make great husbands.

Unfortunately, sometimes a man has such a close relationship with Mom that it interferes with his ability to be a great husband. When you first dated your husband, you may have admired the fact that he really enjoyed being around his mom. You probably really liked her, and she liked you too. But then maybe she had a hard time letting go of her son, which is understandable since she has known him since he wore Huggies. Perhaps she became a little bit jealous of you, and then you began to feel the need to compete with her. (Read the rest.)

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Are You Dating a Momma’s Boy?

December 15, 2008, 4:40 pm     5 Comments »

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“How to Tell if You Are Dating A Momma’s Boy”
by Jenna D. Barry

NBC has a new TV show called “Momma’s Boys.” With Ryan Seacrest as the host, three young men will let their mothers choose their ideal woman. The point of the show—according to NBC’s website—is to ask, “Who really is the most important woman in a man’s life?” (Read the rest.)

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Loyal Husband; Difficult In-laws

December 9, 2008, 1:32 pm     No Comments »

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“Everybody Loves Raymond but Hates his Parents”
by Jenna D. Barry

Why does everyone love Raymond? I’d like to smack him upside the head.

To set the record straight, I love the TV show “Everybody Loves Raymond” (because I can relate to it) and I’ll bet that in real life Ray Romano is a wonderful, loyal husband and confident adult. But his character on the show is a gutless wimp who constantly ignores his wife’s needs in order to please his narcissistic parents. (Read the rest.)

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In-laws: Growing a Strong Marriage

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“Growing a Strong Marriage: Tips for Dealing with In-laws”
by Jenna D. Barry

Last spring I was trying to decide what to do about some green grass that had crept into my flower garden. To pull out the grass or not to pull out the grass…that was the question. I thought to myself, grass isn’t really a weed, but I don’t want it to grow where it is growing. Just then my husband walked up and made the profound statement “A weed is anything that grows where you don’t want it to grow.” I decided that he was a genius and pulled the grass out from around the flowers. Then to prevent the same problem from occurring again, I put in some decorative rocks to serve as a boundary between the flowers and the grass. (Read the rest.)

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Your kids: Dealing w/ In-laws

December 5, 2008, 11:02 am     1 Comment »

This article has been featured in MOM Magazine, Families On-line Magazine,,, Chic Mom Magazine, Essential Baby AU,,, etc.

“Whose Baby is it Anyway? Dealing with Intrusive In-laws”
by Jenna D. Barry

If you thought your in-laws were intrusive before you had kids, then hold onto your maternity pants. The “fun” has just begun. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the truth is that your relationship with your in-laws is likely to grow more tense once children enter the picture.
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Are You Living With Your In-laws?

December 3, 2008, 5:17 pm     No Comments »

“Are you Living With Your In-laws?”
By Jenna D. Barry

Do you live with your in-laws? If so, you aren’t alone. People live with their in-laws for several reasons. Newlyweds often do it to save money for a house. New moms (and/or single parents) do it so they can have help with childcare. Sometimes elderly parents move in with a son or daughter when they can no longer take care of themselves. And during poor economic times, some families move in together to survive financial hardship.

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You can have a GREAT marriage, even if your in-laws aren't so great!

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You may be quick to blame your in-laws for your marriage problems, but in reality the biggest part of the problem isn't your in-laws, it's your husband's loyalty to them.  When a man marries, he is supposed to transfer his loyalty from his parents to his wife. His behavior plays a key role in how well you get along with his parents.  The goal of this book is to help you gain your husband's loyalty.

If you are in need of hope and encouragement, this book is for you!  Jenna Barry offers hilarious, heartfelt advice about how to have a terrific marriage in spite of difficult in-laws.  As a wife who has personally experienced the despair that comes from having an unsupportive partner, she suggests specific things to say and do to gain your husband's loyalty.  This book won't teach you how to become best friends with your in-laws, but it will teach you how to think and behave in a new way so they no longer have any power over you.  A Wife's Guide to In-laws has over 40 cartoons, two fun chapters written just for your hubby, and worksheets to help the two of you reach loving compromises about common problem issues.

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About Jenna

As a wife of 22 years, Jenna D. Barry (a pen name) has learned how to gain her husband's loyalty through communication, persistence, and a whole lot of love.  She has familiarized herself with the needs and frustrations of other wives by participating in on-line in-law support groups and by talking to marriage therapists, friends, family, and co-workers.


Jenna is the author of the book, A Wife's Guide to In-laws:  How to Gain Your Husband's Loyalty Without Killing His Parents. She has been a radio guest on The Mike Bullard Show and her articles have been published in newspapers, websites, and magazines worldwide.  She writes monthly articles for Hitched Magazine and has been quoted in The Washington Times,, The London Free Press,, etc. She leads a support group for daughters-in-law right here.



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