Your kids: Dealing w/ In-laws
December 5, 2008, 11:02 am
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“Whose Baby is it Anyway? Dealing with Intrusive In-laws”
If you thought your in-laws were intrusive before you had kids, then hold onto your maternity pants. The “fun” has just begun. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but the truth is that your relationship with your in-laws is likely to grow more tense once children enter the picture.
But then you probably discovered that the day you announced that you were pregnant. Ah, yes, that was the day your father-in-law insisted that you follow tradition and name your son (or daughter), “Clyde Waldo Dufus III”. And later that evening your mother-in-law purchased airline tickets and reserved a seat in the front row of the delivery room, followed by a two-month visit in your guest room.
Don’t get me wrong; some in-laws are wonderful people who respect their daughter-in-law’s needs instead of expecting her to revolve everything around them. Let’s take a Jeff Foxworthy style approach to finding out if you have intrusive in-laws.
You Might Have Intrusive In-laws if:
#10 They insist that they are entitled to be present in the delivery room.
Here are some tips to help you survive intrusive in-laws:
* Replace your insecurity with confidence. You and your husband are the final authority on your children. If your in-laws don’t approve of something you are doing, then so what? You don’t need their approval, so don’t behave as if you do. Just because they disagree with something you do doesn’t mean that you are bad parents.
Jenna D. Barry is the author of “A Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His Parents.” Married 14 years, Jenna has learned how to gain her husband’s loyalty through communication, persistence, and a whole lot of love. Her articles have been published in various newspapers and magazines. She leads a support group for daughters-in-law and has a website at www.WifeGuide.org.
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